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Tips to avoid falling victim to office rudeness

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When a coworker is badmouthing you behind your back.

To fix this, McIntyre said, confront her, but don't start an interrogation.

It's tempting to immediately storm into someone's office demanding an apology, but you run the risk of causing even more drama. So, wait until you catch them alone and tell them what you heard, without being accusatory, she suggested.

"Don't make assumptions, state the facts, and use 'I' statements, like 'I heard you may have said that...,'" McIntyre advises.

Even if they deny it, you're letting them know that the gossip is getting back to you and that you're not having it.

In another situation your coworker may think office life is The Hunger Games, and she'll do anything to get an edge.

In that case create some distance between the two of you, McIntyre suggests.

If someone has set her sights on your job, you don't want to give her an advantage. That might mean not telling her about a new project you're working on, or not swapping stories at happy hour.

"If someone has an agenda, you can still be a pleasant colleague while not letting them gain an advantage over you," McIntyre said.

If your boss is upto making your life miserable, don't think of quitting the job. Instead focus on your work, but pull back in other areas, Porath recommends.

"Hold off on attending optional social functions and limit your work to normal office hours," she said.

And most importantly, don't let the rudeness follow you home. Leave your laptop at the office, and don't be plugged in 24/7, she added.

This will help reduce stress from a toxic boss and at the same time show them that you're there for one reason: to work.

If that doesn't impress them, at least you've bulked up your resume, the expert stated.

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