In a recent family gathering, it dawned on me that our cultures have long glorified the role of mothers in parenting, but the contributions of fathers often remain in the shadows. As a family therapist, I’ve observed the intricate dynamics of the father-child relationship. Fathers need to step in and help children as they transition into adolescence, especially considering how bumpy that process is. In Indian society, fathers are often seen as stoic figures—responding to WhatsApp messages with a simple thumbs-up, conveying emotions through a single glance or not exhibiting emotions at all, and slipping a little extra money when only the bare minimum is expected. These seemingly small gestures carry weight. Though many factors influence a child's development, the role of a father is irreplaceable and impactful. Through their presence, behaviour, and interactions, fathers play a huge role in shaping teenagers' growth and identity. Here are some tips for fathers on bonding with their teenagers: Recognise their need for care and connection Those eye rolls might suggest otherwise, but trust me, your teenager craves care and connection just as much as a baby. Their rebellious streak may mask their need for affection, but shared experiences create lasting memories and deepen your relationship. These moments also offer opportunities to connect on a personal level. Respect their growth and independence Teenagers need space and time to develop and explore their identities. They might make impulsive decisions or mistakes along the way—trust the process and allow them the freedom to learn from these experiences. Often, what they need most is a supportive ear, not a solution-focused hand. Facilitate active listening Showing genuine interest in what your teenager has to say goes a long way. Listen without interrupting or immediately offering advice. Such an approach makes them feel heard and valued. Active listening works because teenagers often feel misunderstood. By validating their feelings and experiences, you build trust and strengthen your bond. Model Positive Behaviors for Vicarious Learning Teenagers learn a great deal by observing their parents. Model the behaviours and values you want them to adopt, such as kindness, integrity, and responsibility. Your actions will speak louder than words. Also Read: In a recent family gathering, it dawned on me that our cultures have long glorified the role of mothers in parenting, but the contributions of fathers often remain in the shadows. As a family therapist, I’ve observed the intricate dynamics of the father-child relationship. Fathers need to step in and help children as they transition into adolescence, especially considering how bumpy that process is. Continue reading here The fascination with junk food: A guide for parents to encourage their teens to eat healthy. Teens want to try all sorts of new foods – fancy cafes, different cuisines, everything, this can worry parents who want them to eat healthy meals. Continue reading How to deal with the countless questions kids throw at you? Here’s a guide to help you learn how to nurture your child's curiosity by appropriately answering the millions of questions they ask you. Continue reading here
